A Short Note on Love

1 min readOct 5, 2022

Today I read an essay titled “Lacanian Perspectives on Love” by Darlene Demandante. Shoulder to shoulder with a newfound friend of mine, I couldn’t help but smile in enjoyment.

Love unifies us.

“us” in fact, is the term used to convey two subjects through a singular mean. It is a unificatory force.

“the moment one begins to speak about love, one descends into imbecility.”

-Jacques Lacan, Seminar XX, 17

“A man who finds himself among others is irritated because he does not know why he is not one of the others. In bed next to a girl he loves, he forgets that he does not know why he is himself instead of the body he touches.”

-Georges Bataille, The Solar Anus

“It is impossible to love without language.”

-Darlene Demandante, Lacanian Perspectives on Love

What is love?

Love is premised on communication.

The constant failure to rationalize itself through a string of signifiers

Signifiers are self-referrential. No matter the intensity they present themselves with, they will never “hit” the real.

But the communion between two subjects fuses them into one.

They draw into one another

Continuously demanding of eachother

Until for a moment, they are one

All is clear through unity.